Patience Will Help You Get Your Ex Back
Posted on May 12, 2008
Filed Under Relationships |
You and your partner have recently broken up. After careful consideration you have decided that the two of you not being together is just wrong. The planets aren’t aligned that way. You belong together and you want to get your ex back.
You are certain that the break up is a huge mistake. You have the telephone, text and email all available to you. So what could be more natural than to contact your ex and talk it over.
But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.
There Is A Reason For The Split
Remember, your break happened for a reason. Maybe for several reasons. You may not be able to see what caused the break up or if you know the cause maybe it just doesn’t make sense to you so you tend to want to dismiss it as unimportant. But if you go blundering in now, soon after the split, begging to be heard, demanding that your ex listen to reason, your version of reason, you will only make matters worse.
It may be hard for you to do but now is the time for patience, you have to wait.
Only you can decide how long to wait before making contact with your ex. The circumstances of the break up can help you make the best decision.
If the problems that caused the split were long simmering, wait longer. If there was shouting, recriminations, anger at the time of the split, wait even longer.
What do you know about your ex? How long will it take him or her to calm down? Once you think you have a good idea of how long to wait, double the time.
Use the Time Wisely
You have a waiting period to get through so use the time for some introspection and self-improvement.
Think about the cause of your break up and your part in it. When the time comes to talk to your ex you need to be able to acknowledge your mistakes and your faults. You need to be able to assure your ex that you are aware of your less attractive qualities and are already taking steps toward improvement.
To get your ex back you will need to practice self control and patience. You will need to able to look critically at yourself and be willing to make improvements. This may be difficult but if the two of you are meant to be together all your efforts will be well rewarded.
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